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I Found a Doctor in British Columbia, and It Took My Determined Pants!

I Found a Doctor in British Columbia, and It Took My Determined Pants!

When you move to British Columbia, or probably anywhere, there is a process you are supposed to follow to find a medical doctor.

You register for the Medical Services Plan, better known as MSP. You add your name to healthcare registries, care sites, and waitlists. You complete online intake forms and wait for someone to tell you that a doctor has become available.

So that is exactly what I did.

I registered with MSP. I joined the waitlists. I filled out forms and contacted clinics. A few offices eventually responded, only to tell me that I had been declined as a patient.

How do you get declined as a patient?

There was no explanation, no phone number, and no human being available to ask what I was supposed to do next.

Just one cheerful little word:

DECLINED.

I had already heard the horror stories about people waiting years to find a family doctor in British Columbia. Some people told me they had waited more than eight years.

Eight years. Yes, you read that correctly.

When you have been through cancer, that is not merely inconvenient. That is a horror story.

I did not have an oncology team in British Columbia to lean on. My medications were running out, and I require ongoing monitoring, blood work, follow-up appointments, and continued treatment for at least the next seven years!

But I could not simply contact a cancer hospital and ask for an oncology team.

I needed a family doctor to refer me.

Doctors, nurses, specialists, and healthcare workers are doing incredibly important work under enormous pressure.

The silly part of all of this is that there are not enough doctors to ensure people can access the care they need. The silly part is that someone who has already been through cancer can move between two Canadian provinces, yet the systems cannot easily communicate and continue that person’s care.

I knew what care I needed and where I needed to go. I simply could not get through the front door without someone who would take me on as a new patient to write the referral.

After a few weeks of feeling worried, frustrated, and honestly quite upset, I finally drew a line in the sand.

On Monday morning, I put on my determined pants.

I decided I was going to find a doctor that day, no matter what it took.

I worked my way through lists, websites, directories, and clinic pages across the Greater Vancouver area. By then, I no longer cared where the doctor was located.

I have a car.

I can get there.

I just need a doctor!

Many websites claimed clinics were accepting new patients. When I contacted them, they were not. Apparently, “accepting new patients” can sometimes mean “we once considered accepting new patients during a brief window in 2022.”

Still, I kept going.

After about five hours, I was exhausted and close to giving up. Then I found a doctor in Vancouver who appeared to be taking new patients.

I remained skeptical. By this point, I trusted the words “accepting new patients” about as much as I trust jeans labelled “one size fits all.”

But this time, it was true.

Not only did I get a doctor for myself, but Nino was accepted too.

And we did not find just any doctor.

From my first appointment, this young doctor understood exactly what I needed. I explained my cancer history, my treatment, my medication concerns, and the fact that I did not yet have an oncology team in British Columbia.

His immediate response was:

“We need to get you into a cancer hospital!”

YES!

I was finally heard.

It was patient-doctor love at first sight. Not that kind of love. I love him for being a great doctor. You know what I mean. Jeesh.

He was knowledgeable, compassionate, and thorough. He ordered blood work immediately and told me he would send the referral.

I completed my blood work on Wednesday. Today, I received notice that he has already arranged a virtual appointment to review the results with me.

And yesterday, after seeing this doctor only once, I received a letter from BC Cancer confirming that I have an appointment booked in six weeks.

I can finally breathe again.

Things are moving.

I have a doctor. My blood work is underway. My follow-up is booked. My BC Cancer appointment is scheduled. The right team is beginning to line up around me so I can move through the next few years of checkups, monitoring, and treatment with confidence.

For weeks, I felt as though I was standing alone in the middle of a healthcare maze, rattling every locked door.

Now, one has finally opened.

Finding a doctor should not have required weeks of worry, multiple rejections, five hours of relentless searching, and a particularly powerful pair of determined pants!

But I found one.

Even better, I found the right one.

It feels like Christmas came early, and today I am counting my blessings.

I am grateful for the doctor who listened, the referral to BC Cancer, and the feeling that I am supported again.

Sometimes the blessing is not simply finding what you were searching for.

Sometimes it is finding exactly who you needed.

Have you struggled to find a family doctor, transfer medical care between provinces, or navigating the healthcare system after cancer? Please share your experience in the comments. Your story may help someone else feel less alone, and perhaps together we can keep this important conversation moving forward.

Life Is Too Short, But Apparently Doctor Waitlists Are Not

Life Is Too Short, But Apparently Doctor Waitlists Are Not

There is nothing quite like a major health scare to make you look around at your life and say, “Well, shit. Time to renovate my life!”

Not a cute little HGTV refresh with throw pillows and a new lamp either. I’m talking full emotional demolition. Walls down. Floors ripped up. Dust everywhere. The kind where you stand in the middle of your own life wearing safety goggles thinking, “How did I get here, and why is there so much beige? Yuck!”… And I think I may have been watching too many redecorating shows lately!

A big health scare wakes you up in a way nothing else can. It grabs you by the shoulders and reminds you that life is not some endless buffet where you can casually circle back later for joy, peace, adventure, or rest. Life is short. Annoyingly short. Rude, actually…if I am being honest!

And suddenly, things that used to feel important start looking ridiculous.

The people-pleasing.
The waiting.
The shrinking or apologizing.
The “I’ll do it when things calm down.”
The pretending I am fine when my nervous system is basically a raccoon trapped in a mailbox.

Trust me, a health scare makes you want to live differently. Not someday. Not when the stars align, or Mercury behaves itself. Now.

So here I am…I wanted to move. Change. Breathe. Choose myself. Find sunshine. Take a class. Be near my Heart children. Learn something new. Wear the thing. Say no without feeling guilty. Say yes to the parts of life that make me feel awake again.

For me, that meant looking at my life with sharper eyes and a softer heart. It meant asking, “What actually matters now?” Not in a dramatic movie-trailer voice, although honestly, sometimes it felt that way. It meant admitting that after everything my body had carried me through, I owed it more than survival mode.

So, I made changes.

And like most big changes, they came with fear, tears, excitement, chaos, and a few moments where I questioned whether I had accidentally joined a cult run by packing boxes.

Moving somewhere new can be incredible. It can feel like a fresh page. New streets. New routines. New coffee shops. New skies. New possibilities.

But here is the caveat nobody puts on the inspirational poster: starting over is not always light and breezy when you have a medical history that likes to sit in the corner wearing tap shoes just waiting for its turn to jump on stage.

Because when you have lived through a serious diagnosis like breast cancer, access to healthcare is not just a practical detail. It is emotional security. It is the thing that lets you exhale.

And when you move somewhere new and suddenly cannot find a doctor, that fear gets loud real fast!

Not cute loud. Not “my dog is so cute barking at a leaf” loud. I am talking about 3 a.m. brain loud. And often! The thoughts are endless…

What if something comes back?

What if I miss a symptom?

Who do I call?

Who is watching my medical dashboard while I’m trying to drive this life?

Thank God I moved in next to a hospital!

But would they see me or know what to do if I had an emergency?

Is this an emergency right now that I don’t have a Doctor?

That fear is real.

It is not dramatic.

It is not overreacting.

It is what happens when my body has already surprised me once, and now I am trying to trust it again while also navigating a healthcare system that feels like trying to get concert tickets to my favorite artist while using dial-up internet.

All I do know is that in this moment:

I can be grateful to be alive and still be scared.
I can be brave and still need support.
I can want a new life and still feel deeply unsettled by the gaps in care.

That is the weird, messy, human truth of it.

A health scare can make you want to chase life with both hands. But healing also means needing safety. It means wanting freedom, but also follow-up appointments. It means dreaming about new beginnings while quietly wondering who will help you if your body sends up a flare.

And maybe that is the real lesson.

Life is too short to stay stuck. But it is also too precious to pretend we do not care about the  systems that helps us!

So yes, I still want change. I want joy. I want movement. I want laughter that sneaks up and makes me forget what I was worried about for a second. I want to keep building a life that feels like mine full of adventure.

But I also want a doctor. Let’s not get too carried away here! I NEED a freakin’ Doctor!

Because this next chapter is not about pretending fear does not exist. It is about letting fear ride in the back seat while my hopes and dreams take the wheel, my sassy self controls the playlist, and I keep moving forward anyway.

One imperfect, brave, slightly ridiculous step at a time.

Mistletoe & Vitamin C in Cancer Care: A Real Story of Integrative Healing

Mistletoe & Vitamin C in Cancer Care: A Real Story of Integrative Healing

When I was diagnosed with cancer, my calendar filled up faster than my Amazon cart on a bad day.

Appointments. Treatments. Decisions. More appointments. Fears. Tears. Feeling out of control.

What doesn’t always get talked about is how to support ones body through all of it and not just survive it.

During my breast cancer journey, I chose to combine Western medical treatment with integrative, Eastern-influenced care.

Not instead of.
Alongside.

Because I wanted to treat the cancer but I also wanted to support me.

Supporting My Body During Chemo, Radiation & Surgery

Before I ever touched mistletoe or high-dose vitamin C, I was already working with a qualified Naturopathic Doctor (ND).

Together, we focused on supporting my body while I went through:

Chemotherapy
Radiation
Surgery

This included:

Carefully selected supplements
Nutritional support
Managing side effects
Helping my body stay as strong as possible

And let’s be clear, this was done safely and intentionally alongside my medical treatments.

No rogue decisions. No “I read this on the internet at 2am so let’s go.” No googling “what will make me better faster?”

Why I Didn’t Start Mistletoe & Vitamin C Right Away

Now here’s where real life kicks in. While you may not feel like you have choices, you do!

You can do mistletoe and vitamin C IV’s during treatment.

Many people do.

I chose not to.

Why?

 Because honestly, I already felt like a human dartboard.  Between chemo, bloodwork, and everything else, I had enough needles coming at me weekly. Adding more needles? Hard pass at that stage.

So I waited until I was nearing the end of my Western treatments when my body (and let’s be honest, my patience) had a little more room.

And that’s something I want you to hear clearly:

You don’t have to do everything at once to be doing something right. You just need to be doing what is right for YOU!

Now, you may be asking…What is Mistle Toe  and High Dose Vitamin C Therapy?

Mistletoe therapy uses extracts from the Viscum album plant and is widely used in integrative oncology, especially in Europe.

It’s typically given as small injections under the skin but in my case, I take it intravenously with high dose Vitamin C.

When I Used It…

I introduced mistletoe toward the end of treatment and into recovery when I had the capacity to add another layer of support.

After much reading about this combination and working with my ND, I learned that this treatment is great for immune system support,
increased energy,  and improved quality of life.

It’s not a cure. It’s support.

Think of it as backup dancers, not the headliner.

High-Dose Vitamin C (IV Therapy) is delivered through an IV allowing levels in your bloodstream that you simply can’t get from food or supplements. High-Dose Vitamin C helps again with immune support, reducing fatigue and support during recovery. All of the things I needed!

At this point in my journey, my focus shifted to:

Recovery
Rebuilding strength
Supporting long-term health

Western Medicine vs. Integrative Care (Let’s Talk About It)

This is where things can get… tense. And I mean like you may think you are doing everything wrong and your Doctor team now hate you…trust me, they do not!

Many Western-trained doctors may resist or question therapies like mistletoe or IV vitamin C.  And before we sharpen pitchforks, let’s pause.  The truth is, they’re not wrong.

They are trained in evidence-based systems that prioritize large clinical trials, standardized care, and safety.

That training is critical. It saves lives every day.

But it also means they may not be trained in integrative or naturopathic approaches.

So when they hesitate or act superior with their opinion, it’s not necessarily opposition, it’s the framework they were taught.

And Still…NEVER FORGET… It’s YOUR Body

Here’s where both truths get to coexist:

Your medical team brings essential expertise and you have the right to explore supportive options.  You are not at the mercy of what your medical Doctor says.

For me, it looked like this:

I followed my oncologist’s treatment plan. I worked with a qualified ND. I supported my body during treatment with supplements and
I added mistletoe and vitamin C when it felt right for me.

Not rushed. Not pressured. Not because someone on Instagram said “this changed everything.”

(If it sounds like a miracle in a caption… proceed with caution.)

What Integrative Cancer Care Really Means

Integrative care isn’t about replacing Western medicine.  It’s about expanding the support system around it.

For me, that included:

Medical treatment, Nutritional support, Movement and fitness, Mental and emotional health, and Targeted therapies like mistletoe and vitamin C

It’s never been about doing more.  It’s  been about doing what’s meaningful and manageable for me.  While some tried to tell me “how to do cancer treatment”, I thanked them for sharing and did what was right for me.

If You’re Considering This Path

If you’re exploring mistletoe therapy or high-dose vitamin C, here is what I can share with you:

👉 Work with a licensed Naturopathic Doctor (ND) trained in integrative oncology

👉 Ensure your care is coordinated with your medical team

👉 Understand your timing during treatment vs. after

👉 Avoid anyone promising cures (that’s your cue to politely exit stage left)

The bottom line is mistletoe therapy and high-dose vitamin C are part of the growing world of integrative cancer care and prevention.

They are not cures.
They are not replacements.

But they can be powerful supportive tools when used properly.

A Final Thought to Share

Cancer treatment can make you feel like everything is happening to you. Like you have zero choice in how things go.

Integrative care gave me a way to feel like I was participating again. Like I had a say in how my treatments were going to go.

And that shift? It matters more than people realize.

So if you’re navigating this path be sure to take your time, ask questions and build your team!  Also, remember, you do not have to do everything and you only have to do what is right for you!

💛 An INVITE for You!

If you’re looking for a real, honest perspective on navigating cancer with strength, movement, and mindset…

My book Dancing Through Diagnosis shares the full journey. Raw, resilient, and yes, with a few laughs along the way because not everything in life is 100% serious! Not even cancer!

You don’t have to walk this path alone.  There are many of us survivors out here doing what we can to support those newly diagnosed.

I am here for you.

Much love,

Tammy

 

When the Fear Comes Back Before the Cancer Does…

When the Fear Comes Back Before the Cancer Does…

Living With the Worry of Recurrence

No one warns you about this chapter of the journey.

They prepare you for the diagnosis…kind of…by looking worried when they do your tests. You know something is up but what? You soon find out.
They brace you for treatment…kind of…by seeing an oncologist who throws words at you while you try to figure out what in life got you to this point.
They celebrate the bell, the scans, the “all clear.” And YOU celebrate them too because WOW, you are still alive after all of that!

What they don’t mention is the lingering fear that slips in after everyone else has gone home.

The worry of recurrence. The subtitles playing behind the life movie that nobody mentioned to turn on!

It doesn’t arrive with drama. It shows up quietly.
A weird ache. “Is it back?”
A random wave of exhaustion. “Is it back?”
A follow-up appointment sitting on your calendar like it pays rent. “Waiting is brutal…still!”

I remember thinking, Why am I still scared?
I did the chemo.
I showed up for the surgeries.
I survived the thing that was supposed to be the worst part.

Turns out, survival comes with an emotional aftertaste.

Here’s what no one puts on the pamphlet: cancer doesn’t just affect your body. It rewires your nervous system. Once you’ve lived in crisis mode, your brain becomes an overachiever. Every sensation becomes suspicious. Every quiet moment invites a “what if.”

And fear? Fear gets clever. It pretends it’s just being responsible. Checking in on things just to be safe.

Because left unchecked, it steals your joy in sensible shoes. It steals your perfect sunny afternoon walking the dog.  It steals your time with family and friends. It steals everything!

I spent a long time trying to stay positive through the fear. Smile harder. Be grateful louder. Pretend confidence would scare it away. Spoiler: fear does not respond to motivational quotes. Trust me, I tried!

What helped was something far less glamorous.

I stopped fighting it.  I stopped resisting what I had been through for the last 2 and a half years.

Instead, I acknowledged it.
“Yes, that happened.”
“Yes, that was terrifying.”
“Yes, my body remembers.”

And then I grounded myself in what is actually true, not what might be.

Right now, I am okay.
Right now, I am alive.
Right now, my body is not the enemy.

Living with the fear of recurrence isn’t about pretending it won’t happen. It’s about refusing to let a hypothetical future hijack today. It’s about choosing presence over panic, even when uncertainty taps you on the shoulder.

Some days, that looks like movement. Dancing myself back into trust.
Some days, it looks like rest. Real rest, not “earning it” rest.
Some days, it looks like laughing at something ridiculous and realizing I’m still here for the punchline.

And yes, some days fear still shows up. But it no longer gets to drive.  It is just the passenger in the backseat that every now and then tries to be the backseat driver and we all know how we feel about “those ones”!

If you’re living in this space, wondering if you’re doing survivorship “wrong,” let me be clear: you’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re not failing.

You’re adapting.

We don’t dance because the future is guaranteed.
We dance because the music is playing now.

And today, that’s more than enough.

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If this resonates, you’re not alone.

In Dancing Through Diagnosis, I share what survivorship really looks like, the good, the messy, and the surprisingly funny moments no one prepares you for.

Available now on Amazon, Indigo and if you are reading this blog, you are on my site and you can find it here at www.tammygunn.com

Because healing doesn’t end when treatment does.  YOU are NOT alone!

Why Weighted Vests & Belts Are the Secret Weapon for Aging Like a Badass…

Why Weighted Vests & Belts Are the Secret Weapon for Aging Like a Badass…

I was recently approached by this amazing Canadian company to learn more about the benefits of weighted wearables and I have learned that this REALLY IS a secret weapon to taking care of ones’ health.  Here is why…

Let’s be upfront and honest…Aging is a privilege and it also comes with a few surprises. Achy joints. Slower recovery. Random mystery sounds when you get out of a chair. And for many women (and men!) creeping into midlife and beyond, bone density decides to play a cruel game of limbo: How low can you go?  Me? Not very low anymore!

If you’re a woman on tamoxifen, you’ve probably already heard the warnings whispered like ghost stories around a campfire: osteopenia… osteoporosis… brittle bones. And the fun part? Many don’t realize bone loss can start early, especially through cancer treatment. And you do not have to have gone through cancer treatment to be facing this lovely part of getting older! But before you wrap yourself in bubble wrap and swear off all activities except crocheting (which, to be fair, is wildly underrated), let’s talk about a powerhouse solution that’s affordable, effective, and surprisingly fun:

Weighted vests and belts.

Yes. Those chunky little heroes? They’re game-changers. I have seriously fallen in love!


The Science-y Truth: Your Bones Need a Challenge

Bones aren’t passive sticks holding up your skin bag. (Such a fun way to describe being human!)  Our bones are living, always adapting, always responding to the load you place on them.
If you place more load (enter: weighted vest), they respond by saying:

“Oh, we’re doing THIS now? Fine. I’ll get stronger.”

This magic is called osteogenic loading, and it’s one of the best ways to keep your skeleton solid as you age. Walking, dancing, cleaning, doing stairs — all get a bone-boosting upgrade when you add a little safe, evenly-distributed weight.  And it is so easy that you don’t need to really do anything different in your day, other than throw on the vest or belt before you do your regular activities!

Benefits of wearing a weighted vest/or belt include:

  • Increased bone density

  • Stronger posture (hello superhero stance)

  • Better balance

  • Improved muscle tone

  • Higher calorie burn (without doing anything extra = blessed.)

  • Confidence boost because you feel like a warrior in disguise (I am not kidding! You will feel so good all over!)


Let’s Talk Weighted Gear & Tamoxifen: Your Bones Deserve Backup

Tamoxifen is a lifesaver but it can be a bone-density troublemaker for some people, especially premenopausal women. Even post-treatment, the risk of osteoporosis can be higher.  It is the little pill that decreases your chances of cancer recurring but like anything you take, it comes with side effects and here we are fighting to keep our bone health safe!

So what can help?

Regular weight-bearing movement + added load = bones staying dense, fierce, and fully employed.

A weighted vest or belt is like giving your bones a pep talk:
“Hey, don’t you dare shrink. We’ve got things to do.”

Every time I put mine on I feel like a Super Hero getting ready to take on the day! It is an amazing confidence boost!


Vests vs. Belts: Which One’s Your Style?

I mention both because I own both and I LOVE them both for different reasons so let me break down each of them for you…

Weighted Vests

Perfect for:

  • Walking

  • Hiking

  • Household chores

  • Teaching or taking Zumba (I see you!)

  • Everyday errands that double as stealth workouts

It sits comfortably, distribute weight evenly, and doesn’t shift around like that bra you know you should get rid of but wear all the time anyway!

Weighted Belts

Perfect for:

  • Dog walks

  • Running

  • Mobility work

  • People who want the benefits without looking like they’re wearing tactical gear

Belts are subtle but powerful like the quiet kid from high school who later becomes a CEO.


Next up…Okay But Why Power WearHouse?

Because — and I’m not exaggerating — they’re the best weighted vests and belts on the market.
Most weights out there?
• Too bulky
• Too bouncy
• Dig into your shoulders
• Or look like they were designed by someone who hates comfort…seriously….why would you wear something that is so uncomfortable when you have a choice?!

Power WearHouse gets it RIGHT!
Comfortable. Adjustable. Designed for real bodies doing real movement. And they actually look… good!

I’ve tested them. I’ve worn them. I’ve danced in them. I’ve walked my dog in them. I’ve lived my life in them. And I can confidently say:
Your future bones will thank you.


Here is MY Invitation to Level Up (With a Discount 😏)

If you’re ready to age with strength, sass, mobility, and bones that refuse to quit, here’s your moment.

👉🏼 Order your weighted vest or belt at:

powerwearhouse.com

Click the link above and use my code POWERWITHTAMMY for a sweet little discount because strong bones shouldn’t come with a big price tag.


My Final Thoughts:

You don’t need to overhaul your life.
You don’t need to join a gym.
You don’t need to turn into “that person” who talks about fitness at dinner parties.

Just add a vest or belt to what you’re already doing like walking the dog, climbing stairs, dancing in the kitchen, chasing the kids, or living your everyday magic.

A little weight today = a LOT more living tomorrow.

Your bones are ready.
Your future self is cheering.
And honestly? You’re going to look fantastic.

Don’t just take my word for it…EXPERIENCE it for YOURSELF!

Much love,

Tammy

When Healing Feels Heavy: My Life with Lymphedema

When Healing Feels Heavy: My Life with Lymphedema

Nobody warned me that surviving cancer came with bonus features…

Scars? Expected.

Fatigue? Sure.

Random swelling that makes me feel like I have arm-wrestled the Pillsbury Doughboy and lost? Yeah, that one was not in the brochure.

Welcome to life with lymphedema! The unwanted gift that keeps on giving!

When I woke up after my bilateral mastectomy, I was greeted with the news that the surgeon had to take many of my lymph nodes from my right arm pit because they tested positive for cancer.  I knew this might happen but on the day of surgery they still were not clear if they would need to.  I had my mind set that they wouldn’t need to so this was a blow to my emotional state when they told me.  What it now meant was my lymph system used to move fluid around efficiently. Now it’s like, “Nope, I’m out. You handle it.” The result? One arm (and sometimes armpit) that swells, tightens, and throbs like one of those neon lights flickering in a window.

What It Feels Like (Spoiler: Not a Spa Day)

Imagine wearing an invisible blood-pressure cuff that never quite releases. Add in a pinch of heaviness, a dash of tingling, and the occasional “did-someone-stuff-a-tennis-ball-under-my-skin?” sensation. That’s lymphedema.

Most mornings, I wake up and my arm looks fine… almost normal. Other days, it feels like it’s been filled with wet sand overnight. If I lift it too long or skip my sleeve, I swear I can hear it puff up like a balloon.  You may not be able to see it because my arm so far doesn’t swell up as bad as many others do but I can feel it and it feels huge and uncomfortable.

Oh, and don’t get me started on how weather affects it. Humid days? Forget it. My arm swells faster than my hair in a rainstorm.

How I Deal with It (and Try Not to Lose My Mind)

Let’s get one thing straight: lymphedema isn’t something you cure. It’s something you manage …like a grumpy roommate who refuses to move out. But I’ve learned a few tricks to keep the peace.

  1. Compression Garments: My Not-So-Sexy Armor

Yes, I wear a compression sleeve. Sometimes a bra that feels like it was engineered by NASA. They’re not glamorous, but they work. You get used to it. Think of them like Spanx for your lymph system. Juzo.com has some of the most beautiful tattoo style prints that make compression sleeves a thing of fashion!

I’ve learned to pick fun colors and pretend like I’m auditioning for a superhero reboot: “Lympha-Woman: Defender of Circulation!”

  1. Massage and Manual Drainage

There’s a fancy name for it — Manual Lymphatic Drainage — which sounds like a plumbing service. But it’s basically gentle self-massage to help move fluid. I do it daily, whispering encouraging things to my arm like, “Come on, girl, let’s get things flowing. You can do it!”

  1. Movement That Doesn’t Make Me Swear

Exercise helps but not the “crush-it” kind. Think Zumba, walking, stretching, yoga, and anything that keeps the lymph fluid moving without overdoing it.
I’ve learned the hard way that pushing too far means puffing up later. So now I stop before my arm throws a tantrum.

  1. Hydration (and Fewer Salty Snacks, Sigh)

Turns out the more water I drink, the less my arm swells. Wild, right? I also try to limit salt and sugar. This is a tough one because I love a good salty snack!
But I’ll be real… if it’s movie night and there’s popcorn; I’m not measuring sodium content. I’ll just wear my sleeve, deal with the swelling and call it balance.

  1. Skin Care Is Non-Negotiable

Because my lymph system’s lazy, any cut or bug bite could turn into an infection. So, I baby my skin like it’s royalty. I never was one to be great at skincare before but now I am obsessed with moisturizer, gentle soap, and clean towels. Basically, I treat my arm and all of my skin better than anything.

  1. Rest and Elevation

Sometimes the best thing I can do is lie down and prop my arm up like it’s living its best queen life. It’s not glamorous, but hey, if my arm wants to relax on a pillow throne, so be it. It helps!

The Mental Weight No One Talks About

Physically, lymphedema is uncomfortable. But emotionally? It’s exhausting. It’s a daily reminder that even though I “beat cancer,” my body still carries the baggage. There are days I look at my swollen arm and think, Seriously? Haven’t we been through enough?

Then there are days I marvel at what my body still can do. It’s carried me through chemo, surgery, radiation, and now, this. It’s a little swollen, a little stubborn, but still showing up. Kind of like me!

I’ve learned to laugh about it when I can. I even gave my swollen side a nickname: The Diva. She acts up when I’m stressed, hates humidity, and demands attention. But when I care for her, she usually settles down.

What I Want Others to Know

If you’re dealing with lymphedema or love someone who is, know that this condition is both invisible and relentless. It’s not “just swelling.” It’s physical discomfort, body image frustration, and a lifelong maintenance plan. But it’s also survivorship. It’s resilience with a side of sarcasm.

And here’s the thing: I may have to manage this forever, but I refuse to let it manage me.

I dance. I write. I live. Some days I do it with grace; other days I do it with a swollen armpit and a bad attitude. But I do it! And that’s what matters.

My Final thought: Healing isn’t about looking perfect. It’s about learning to live fully even when one arm needs a little extra TLC and a custom sleeve.

When you see me out dancing with my compression gear on, don’t pity me. Just know I’m moving, sweating, and still very much living through the swell.

It is not easy. But it is do-able!

Wait!! Can You Break a Boob?

Wait!! Can You Break a Boob?

This month marks Breast Cancer Awareness Month…as a survivor, Breast Cancer Awareness Month is really every month of the year.  I do have moments now where I forget what I went through and that usually only lasts a few minutes, maybe an hour.  Honestly, this is because the scars I have cannot be unseen.  For this month, I wanted to share one chapter from my book Dancing Through Diagnosis.  What more fitting than the night my life changed…

Chapter 1

OH HELLO-THAT’S NEW

July 7th, 2021

“Pour me a glass of wine. I will be right down. Just got
to shower!” I holler while shutting down my laptop and
running upstairs.
It was a Wednesday night and like every Wednesday
night before it, during the pandemic I was teaching an
online Zumba class followed by a yummy dinner with a
glass of wine and a movie with my husband. Even through
the pandemic I had continued to teach hot, sweaty, dance
your heart out Zumba classes, albeit online. But still going
strong five days a week!

After a decade plus of dancing five to six days a week
easily doing anywhere from four to seven hours a day, I
still cannot get enough! Not even a pandemic can stop me
from shaking what my momma gave me!
Only this night would change the trajectory of
everything; simply by towelling off after a shower.
“What is that?” I said to myself… or maybe out loud.
Probably out loud and it was more like “WTH?!”
As my towel brushed past the bottom of my right
breast, I couldn’t help noticing that something didn’t feel
right. Broken glass? It felt like broken glass. Is that possible?
Could I have broken my boob? Can you break a boob?

My mind began to swirl toward real questions then to
ones that were clearly insane and made no sense… and yet,
I asked them out loud… to myself… in the mirror.
Is this one bigger than the left?
It’s not itchy… should it be itchy?
Will lotion smooth out those glassy edges?
Nope… what is that??
Quickly, I finished drying off and got dressed. My mind
was still racing. In that moment, I KNEW something wasn’t
right, but it couldn’t be what my brain was now racing at
full speed ahead to… the C word. Noooooo…. I am way too
young for that!
No, you’re not. Forty-four is not too young.
Thanks brain! You always know how to make a girl feel
good and calm!
I ran downstairs to find my husband scrolling through
Netflix looking for our movie of the night.
“Give me your hand!” I said as I ran toward him with
great concern.
He gave me his hand and before he knew it, he was in
full doctor mode (and not the fun kind) feeling my breast.
“Do you feel that?”
“Yes.”
“What is it?”
“I am not a doctor, Tammy. You should get that checked.”
“Right?! I should. That is not normal right?”
“I think you need to get it checked.” He repeated the
words and continued to scroll through Netflix with his
other hand.
I needed him to feel what I felt and confirm for me
that I was not losing my mind. And that it needed to be
checked, even though he had already said it twice. I felt
like I couldn’t trust myself anymore because my brain was
already hurtling me into a coffin by tomorrow.

I was at the beginning of a mental hurricane that whips
its way through any rational thinking and had begun
planning my funeral.
Does this ever happen to you?
The brain takes over all common sense and suddenly
you are making mental lists of who gets what when you
die and wishing you hadn’t been so crazy when you were
younger. Of wanting to take back so much of what you had
done but, in all honesty, it got you to where you are today.
And beside the broken boob and needing a doctor, you
think your life has actually been pretty awesome. Just not
at the moment because you still have a broken boob….
Please tell me I am not alone in this!
That night, I called and left a message for my doctor.
The real one… The one who could help. Because with
Google only a click away, I would be making my own full
diagnosis if I couldn’t reach my REAL doctor soon!
The next day I did speak to my doctor, thankfully,
because my brain was still on fast forward. And my doctor
knows me well enough to know that if I am calling like this,
I am in panic mode about something.
Yup, everything felt like it was moving at the speed of
light and yet at a turtle’s speed to get answers!

 

That night changed everything in my life. Any cancer patient can tell you when and how they discovered it.  I wrote Dancing Through Diagnosis for all those on the journey and those supporting family and friends on the journey because I think we need to get really real about what this experience is like and learn about all we don’t know about going through cancer. I never thought in a million years it would be me writing about this, but here we are!  And maybe it had to be me so that the medical jargon gets left out. And maybe because I love to write in real talk with a sense of humor and that is what the world needs right now.

On Amazon the readers find the content inspiring, encouraging, and hopeful. They appreciate the humor, saying it’s witty and playful. Readers describe the book as an excellent read for patients, caregivers, and those facing challenging times. They find the writing style engaging, tender, witty, and clear. They also describe the story as authentic and an emotional journey that deepens empathy.

I guess it is true then if you read it on Amazon! 😉  All joking aside, I have seen how this book has positively impacted those who have read it. I hope you will too and share it with your family and friends.

Links to purchase Dancing Through Diagnosis: CLICK HERE for Canada 

CLICK HERE for USA

The Biggest Challenge I Danced Through was Not Breast Cancer…

The Biggest Challenge I Danced Through was Not Breast Cancer…

One of the biggest adjustments in my life after cancer is not the cancer itself surprisingly but the lymphedema in my right arm from having my lymph nodes removed

Let us refresh on what exactly is Lymphedema?

Think of lymphedema like this:

The lymphatic system is basically the body’s sewer system.  While we go about our day it is quietly whisking away excess fluid, waste, bacteria and viruses. When it’s working properly, we don’t notice it at all.  In fact, I didn’t even understand it existed at all until I had part of it removed! When it’s not working… well, imagine our sink drain is clogged up with hair or food or something else nasty. The water (in this case, lymph fluid) has nowhere to go, so it starts pooling where it shouldn’t.

That’s lymphedema! A stubborn, unwanted pooling of fluid under your skin. Your limb puffs up like it’s a balloon-animal, but instead of being a cute giraffe or a poodle, you just end up with a swollen leg or arm.

Important Note: It’s not contagious, it’s certainly not glamorous, but it is persistent! Almost like that one guest who won’t leave the party even after you’ve put the lights on and started cleaning up.  Take a hint! It is time to gooooo!

This really is, in my opinion, one of the worst parts of having metastatic breast cancer.

I have been dealing with this for 3 years now and will for the rest of my life.  I am not complaining about it…well, some days I am if I am being honest.  Like when it is really swollen and even just wearing a t-shirt is the most annoying thing ever.

There are many things I can do to get it back under control such as lymphatic drainage massages either on myself or by a professional.  In this type of treatment, it is like mapping the fluid to the drainage ports in our body.  Slowly pushing the Jell-O like substance under the skin (aka-Lymph fluid) towards the groin and opposite armpit where the lymphatic system is still intact and can process all the waste.  I am sorry for the Jell-O analogy.  I know I can’t eat it anymore either after that visual. Blahh…. textures are now a thing for me!

When I first had to learn to manage my lymphedema it was noted that my right arm and hand were what was affected by the lymphedema.  Knowing this, I was put into a compression garment for my arm and hand.  It has been working great; however, in the last year I have noticed that the fluid is now being trapped in my shoulder and armpit as well as the scapula area.

Fun right? Not really!

Today I had an appointment with Cancer Rehabilitation.  Yes, that is a thing! And thank God it is!  The appointment consisted of my physiotherapist measuring the swelling in my arm.  The crazy part is my left arm is now smaller than my right, but my right arm is smaller than it was three years ago!

So, what does that even mean?

Well, it means that I am managing my lymphedema very well in my arm.  That is the good part!

The not great part is the uncomfortable pooling of fluid happening in my arm pit and my back area.  The good part about today is I learned there are options to support the movement of fluid in this area as well!   There are compression bras and padding that can be added to a bra to help compress and move the fluid.

I recommend we all learn as much as possible about our lymphatic system BEFORE we have to learn to manage it like I have. Here is a comprehensive list of things we can do to manage our lymphatic system:

Move Your Body (Daily)

  • Exercise is #1. Walking, dancing, yoga, rebounding, and swimming are great examples of all that help.
  • Think: movement = drainage.

Stay Hydrated

  • Lymph fluid is mostly water…. besides some of that Jell-O like texture. If you’re dehydrated, your system slows down like pouring molasses.
  • Aim for steady sips throughout the day and make your water interesting by adding cucumber, lemon or even basil!

Massage & Dry Brushing

  • Lymphatic massage can be a game-changer, especially if you’ve had surgery or radiation. You can do this yourself or with a professional.
  • Dry brushing (always brushing toward the heart) helps stimulate lymph flow and slough off dead skin.

Deep Breathing

  • You might think you do this, but I will guarantee that most of us do not!
  • Your diaphragm acts like a pump for the lymph system. Slow, deep belly breathing is simple but powerful.
  • Try a few minutes of breathing: inhale for 4, hold 7, exhale 8.

 Eat Clean, Anti-Inflammatory Foods

  • We all know in theory that junk food is bad for us and yet we do it! Now is the time to adjust the sails!
  • Go heavy on veggies, berries, leafy greens, and omega-3s.
  • Avoid processed junk and too much salt, which can make your body hang onto fluid. Sorry salt! I have loved you for too long!

Sweat It Out

  • Saunas, steam rooms, hot yoga are all activities that encourage sweating, which supports detox.
  • Just remember to rehydrate like a champ afterward.  What goes out, you need to replenish back in!

Sleep & Stress Management

  • Poor sleep and chronic stress both throw your lymph system off. Trust me! I have experienced this one firsthand and it is no fun at all!
  • Restorative sleep and stress-reducing practices (meditation, journaling, nature time) keep your immune and drainage systems in sync.

There you have it! Some great ways to support that beautiful system that keeps our bodies healthy and our immune system happy! I hope you never have to know what life is like to live with a broken-down lymphatic system but know that if you ever do, I have you covered!

This Girl Is On Fire (Part II) The Extinguisher

This Girl Is On Fire (Part II) The Extinguisher

Well, here we are, one month later and I have left you hanging in a hot sweat wondering why you are having that hot flash! Sorry about that, my marketing team tells me that I can’t ramble on too much in one month.  They say that blogs are meant to be 700-1000 words. I bet they have never experienced a hot flash and needed relief!  They are right though, I could really go on and on about this topic. That is why I have broken it up into a two part series to keep you engaged and me coachable to the process of blogging!

Now that we got that out of the way, let’s dive in, shall we?!

What is triggering that nasty “burning you up from the inside out” hot flashes?

To be honest, there are quite a few things that can trigger them unfortunately and women respond differently to certain triggers.  There are some though that are common for us all.  The most irritating thing, in my opinion, is that at one time your body was totally fine and welcoming to all these things.  In fact, some may have been your favorite thing ever!

Here is a Top 10 list I have gathered in no particular order:

  1. Heat – Hot weather, saunas, warm rooms, or even too many blankets can bring on a flash faster than you can say “menopause.”
  2. Spicy foods – Delicious, yes. But your body might treat that jalapeño like a flamethrower. I am a HUGE FAN of spicy food which makes this so disappointing and sometimes I just fight my way through the hot flash and tell myself I am enjoying it!
  3. Caffeine – Your beloved coffee or energy drink can make your internal thermostat glitch. This one I switched to mushroom coffee to deal with and as gross as that might sound, it tastes EXACTLY like coffee! I will share more about this another day!
  4. Alcohol – Especially red wine. What is crazy about this is your Doctor will tell you that if you have any alcohol your best option is red wine for health reasons and yet it can make you feel like you stepped on hot coals on first sip!
  5. Stress or anxiety – Emotional surges often lead to physical ones. Fun, right?
  6. Tight clothing – Restrictive clothes can trap heat and make your body rebel. This year I have taken on being in my flowy dress phase of life to combat this.
  7. Smoking – Not only unhealthy overall but also a notorious hot flash enhancer.
  8. Sugar or high-carb meals – Can spike insulin and mess with thermoregulation. Great! Not even a chocolate bar can help you out of this hot mess!
  9. Exercise (right before bed) – Yes, it’s good for you, but close to bedtime it may rev up your engine too much. Besides, who wants to work out right before bed? Not this girl!
  10. Hot drinks – Even tea or soup can be a sneaky trigger, especially in a warm environment. This one I find though could go either way!

There you have it!  If you avoid all of these things you may be able to reduce or eliminate your hot flashes.  You may also lead the most boring life! Unless you are someone who knows you can embrace giving up all of this and find new happiness living in the Arctic, eating bland food, while sipping on water, meditating in a baggy dress (and cotton underwear) while reading a book before bed.

Okay, all joking aside, you do not have to give all of this up. You just need to figure out what it is for you that sets off your hot flash.  It is a lot of trial and error to get to the point of knowing what your triggers are but if you keep at it, you will find relief.  I promise you!

Lastly, I hear people say that aging sucks but I like to think that the alternative to aging is worse.  Being six feet under! We have to find ways to embrace these new stages in life and remind ourselves that not all get to age, so even this is a privilege.  It is a hot and sweaty burning you up privilege but a privilege all the same! The more we talk about these topics the more we can see we are not alone and we have community to reach out to.

Let me ask you, what would you like me to blog about next?

Send me an email and let me know!

Until then, stay COOL my friends!

Much love,

Tammy

 

 

This Girl is on Fire!

This Girl is on Fire!

This GIRL IS ON FIRE! This girl is on fireeee…

I recently saw my great niece at six years old stand up on stage and belt out this song in one of the most powerful voices I have ever heard for a six-year-old.  She shocked me to the point I sat there in tears listening to this beautiful young girl giving it her all and I was so moved.  She was a girl on FIRE and the flames were burning up that stage with her awesomeness!

The funny part was the next day when my post menopause hot flashes came on, all I could hear was her singing THIS GIRL IS ON FIREEEE, THIS IS GIRL ON FIREEEEE and you know what…I was! I was burning up from the inside out and now that song had a whole new meaning for me.

The intensity of a hot flash can be like someone lit a match under your skin and as the flames begin to grow, so does your internal heat to the point you feel like you may self combust. It is intense and I apologize to every woman who tried to warn me about this as I would say “Oh, I will love it! I love the heat!”  Nope! I DO NOT love this! It is a raging inferno that turns on and off like a water tap!

So, what is a hot flash and why do we get them at a certain point in our lives?

I am so glad you asked! Let me explain…a hot flash is a sudden onset of intense heat.  This is your bodies way of telling you that your hormones are going on a vacation and may not be coming back!

The heat is just one part of it though. The hot flash is often joined by a flushed or red face and your eyeballs may feel like they are sweating…not crying…SWEATING! In fact, your whole body may feel like it is sweating, and your heart may begin beating as if you just completed a marathon.  Because your body is being so dramatic, afterwards it doesn’t know what to do so you may experience chills.  I am the lucky benefactor of ALL these symptoms, so I promise you I am speaking from experience.  Which may make all that I wrote here a bit scarier.  Sorry about that but you deserve the truth! Warts and all!

Let’s move on to WHY on earth we have them.

 Hot flashes commonly occur because of hormonal changes. Particularly caused by a drop in estrogen.  There are three stages in life that this can happen for women:

  1. Perimenopause (which is the time in life where you may feel your emotions are going crazy and something is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you, but I get it!)
  2. Menopause (which means you have gone without a period for 12 months…which in my opinion is not a bad thing!)
  3. Post-menopause (which is still no period and you’re still dealing with the aftermath of the first two I mentioned)

When estrogen in our bodies decide to take that long vacation to sunny Aruba, our body’s thermostat notices that something is missing.  When the brain makes the connection that Estrogen is gone (or not totally gone but wants to leave) it screams out to the rest of the body “Hey! Did somebody turn the heat up? Where did Estrogen go?” This then confuses the body because it doesn’t remember doing that but will take the cue and turn on the cooling system which includes sweating, dilating blood vessels and then triggering a full-body heat wave because like my grandpa always told me…” On a hot day, drink something hot and you will cool down.”  I never understood this logic, but it always worked!

FUN FACT: When I got breast cancer at 44 years old, I was just at the cusp of starting my perimenopause era.  Because my cancer is estrogen driven the oncologist needed to put me on a drug to drastically lower my bodies estrogen immediately.  This meant that I went from “Oh, I am sweaty and a little emotional today…hmmm” to “DEAR LORD what new hell of fire and fury have I walked into?! I AM BURNING UP and I think it’s best if you just walk away!!”

The joys of hot flashes are very few.  The only time they have come in handy for me was when I was outside in a good Canadian winter and was cold.  The sudden onset of the hot flash was appreciated in the moment but then the after chills wrecked the whole experience.

The other good thing about all of this and I am always looking for the good, in my opinion, is when the period stops.  I appreciate not having to count the days until my cycle starts or needing to carry supplies on me all the time or being worried about wearing white pants.  Actually, I still worry about wearing white pants but that is because I am a spiller and those pants most likely will not be white by the end of the day no matter what my cycle does. A glass of red wine or an ice cream cone can make just as much mess I have learned.

OOH! And another fun fact ladies, MEN can get hot flashes too! It is usually due to a medical treatment they are receiving that affects their testosterone levels like for prostate cancer. (NOT fun and in no way am I celebrating they must go through that. I share this with you though so that we don’t assume it’s only us ladies that get to experience the “joy” of a hot flash!)

There you have it, this is what it is and why we get them! Not necessarily enjoyable but simple right?!

In my next blog, I will share with you what can trigger the hot flash and what you can do to cool down besides jumping in a snowbank or an ice bath!

Stay tuned because THIS GIRL IS ON FIREEEEEE!